February 26, 2007
Time, like the sand in my hand, just slips through my fingers discreetly while I still feel that I have handful.
Here it is, the year of Pig. Another new year. A friend asks:"It is your new year! Any resolutions?"I laugh:"I don’t have new year’s resolution, but I have new day’s resolution!" I live my life one day at a time. The ring tone on my cell phone is "Happy Birthday" so I get a lot like:"Oh, is it your birthday today?" "It is my birthday every day.” Every morning I open my eyes, it is a brand-new day and I am still alive! I am not a pessimist or the like but I do know life is vulnerable and we never know what will happen tomorrow so all I can do is to make the most of today, which is called the present.
During the days when my hands are lazy in writing, my brain still catches some random thoughts:
*I found some old clothes which have been ignored for a few years. I decided to match them with something totally different all of sudden they become fashionable again. I can’t help but wonder whether relationships are the same. After some years when the passion fades away, when your significant other becomes your arm or leg (you don’t really feel it when you have it, but it hurts like hell when you cut it), maybe you should add some flavour in the relationship, try to change your pattern and it may be like my old clothes which turn to be something new again.
*Had lunch with a friend who mentioned sometimes he got irritated by his wife’s habits. He then said:’ that is my problem. She has been who she is for all her life. I just have to deal with it myself.’ We often think that as we grow our personality will change however as we grow, we become more and more who we really are. It is always a mistake trying to change someone. Some behaviours, some thoughts, might change. But personality fundamentally, never. All we can do is to find a way to accept and put up with it.
*In managing financial portfolio, we always say:’ Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.’ In a relationship, it is the same. Don’t count your happiness solely on your partner. Otherwise he/she will have too much pressure and if he/she lets you down, your whole world collapses. Continue your passion, your hobbies that make you happy. Have some great buddies who can lend you a shoulder when you are down, have one or two soul mates that you can share your inner thoughts with. Give some space to your partner. He/she needs it as much as you do. Sometimes we need to stay far to be closer.
*A colleague has to miss a meeting to attend his daughter’s audition. He says:” If I miss this meeting, it may not matter to your world But If I don’t show up at my daughter’s audition, her whole world will collapse.” Sometimes we forget who and what are more important to us. Our value is maximized if we give ourselves to those who consider us important and those we consider important.